I met my MP today

This was in the works for a while. I wrote my MP a few weeks ago in response to the Trans Actual campaign to ensure that every MP has met a trans person. They suggested that I should bring my spouse, so we logged into Teams together for a 20 minute chat.

When I asked for the meeting, I had a couple of topics in mind, but the recent Supreme Court decision superseded them, so instead I talked about how trans rights is a generational issue – most young people do know a trans person and they’re not going to forgive Labour if it doesn’t act to protect their friends.

More important than the content of the meeting was that it happened. Our MPs need to hear from us. Trans people, especially, but also allies.

If you’re trans, please both write and ask for a meeting. If you’re cis, please write. (Example scripts here and here, but do use at least some of your own words. Find email addresses here. )

Indeed, if you’re cis, don’t just write your MP, but please also check in with your trans friends.

And check in with your cis friends. Make sure they also know you support trans rights. Ask them to write their MPs also.

Even More Asks

The most important thing I’m asking for is to write an email. It can be super short, just be clear that you support trans rights and want legislative action to protect them.

But, alas, in this climate, bigots are emboldened, so one important part of allyship needs to include helping de-embolden them. If somebody keeps saying “men and women” to mean people, keep adding “and enbies”. This is slightly awkward, but it’s less awkward for you than it would be for an enby. You’re doing G-d’s work.

Talk shit about transphobia. Don’t leave people guessing where your alliances lie. Correct transphobic terminology. People are not “biological” or not. There are women: trans and cis. Men: trans and cis. And non-binary people (sometimes known as “enbies”). Use this terminology. Gently correct others by repeating what they just said back to them with the right wording. Remember that the more polite thing to do is to speak up.

If you witness transphobia impact a person, don’t stay quiet or do nothing, but act on the 5Ds. Most people subject to random transphobic harassment are cis, so watch out for your lesbian friends and others that bigots mistake for trans people.

As far as non-random harassment goes, it tends to be minor, but ongoing. It’s death by a thousand cuts, but your speaking up can make a real difference. Repeat back what was just said but with the right name and pronouns. Disagree with troublesome assertions. Be clear that terfs are weird and don’t speak for you or your friends.

Toilets

Unfortunately, the supreme court ruling may create problems for people who just need to relieve themselves. When you are using the facilities, please be aware of vibes and vulnerable users. The advice below is for cis (passing) people.

Disabled / ungendered loos

Anyone who wishes to use these spaces should be allowed. While people with disabilities do get first crack and to skip queues, nobody should be challenged on seeking to use this space.

If you witness a challenge, speak up and remind the challenger that the loos are for everybody.

Similarly, nobody should be forced to use these loos if they assert the belong in the women’s or the men’s.

Women’s loos

If somebody is too interested in another person or the vibes seem off, be aware. Transphobes will sometimes try to get another person to speak, in order to judge their vocal register. If somebody in the queue asks another person in the queue a question, be ready to answer it yourself. Disrupt their attempts to sus out who might be trans.

Men’s loos

If you are in the loo and you notice somebody who looks like they might not be normally a user of the men’s room or like they might be vulnerable in some way, let them use the loo without being weird at them, but also be aware of vibes. Are other people in there being weird or creepy? Does the situation seem like it might be risky or just feel off? Linger by combing your hair or handwashing or whatever until the other user gets out ok.

If someone is forced to use the wrong loo

Even with the court ruling, everyone has the right to use the loo which best fits their identity. However, in practice, you may witness somebody forced into the wrong space. You need to make sure they get out ok. If they’re forced into non-gendered loos, they’re still at risk for harassment, so keep an eye out. If they’re forced into the men’s somebody friendly must accompany them.

The ideal people to accompany them into the men’s are women and non-binary people. Strangers can and should volunteer for this.

If only men are available, their escort really ought to be somebody they know who is not creepy. It can be more than one person, especially if the first person to volunteer seems weird for any reason.

If you are a strange man, this is socially tricky. Ask the person how and if you can help. Do they want you to ask other users to leave so they can have the loo to themselves? Do they want you to wait for them outside? Do you know where there’s a different toilet nearby?

Ideally, in a case where things seem off around the use of loos or changing rooms, you can hopefully see off trouble before it starts. In case you can’t, be aware of bystander training.

What’s the deal with mumsnet

I wrote this and posted it to Mastodon less than a fortnight ago. Here it is again on my blog, with some minor edits and updated with recent events.

What is mumsnet and how did it get like this

Somebody may have written a proper paper on this, but I want to speculate briefly on how mumsnet happened, which hopefully might point towards preventative measures.

Cis Britons know mumsnet as a webforum for mothers. However, over the last 20 years, it has gradually turned into a highly influential transphobic hate site, while also still being a major, mainstream site for especially new mothers.

The site launched 30-ish years ago, when webforums were still exciting. This was during the digital divide era, so the initial culture was established by middle class women.

It exists partly as a response to some cultural problems in the UK. The thing about England is that people here hate children. Loathe them. This is not a joke. Indeed, even more than people hate children, they abhor babies. At most venues, indoor smoking is more welcome than babies. There aren’t really that many places that people staying home with new babies can go.

Also, despite national myths, England is as sexist as America. New mums are specifically vulnerable to this. They’re cut off from their normal support networks. For natal mothers, embodied aspects of childbirth also bring the full weight of “women are icky” down upon their heads.

So, are you feeling lonely, isolated, disempowered, at odds with your husband who suddenly has some traditional ideas about nappy changing or whatever? Well, here’s a place where you can go to talk to other people just like yourself! Other lonely, aggrieved, relatively wealthy, entitled (but suddenly cut off from various forms of power) people, trying to figure out how to navigate a very hostile system. Share stories! Trade tips! Organise!

Politicians started having to go talk to mumsnet to win voters. This impacted policy. Political organisation on the forums worked!

This is rather a lot for a chat board for mothers, which, by design, was never intended to address parenthood (let alone personhood) more generally. For example, its not intended for men on paternity leave, who also have the same isolation and hostile systems (although not the same kind of sexism). People of other genders who have given birth have to deal with a highly gendered space if they want to join. Adoptive mums have their own battles on the platform. And it only solves part of the problem it’s tackling: people meeting up online are still isolated from face to face connections.

However, the evolution from social space to political space also created additional problems which the site did not address. Decades ago, Jo Freeman wrote ‘The Tyranny of Structurelessness‘ which describes how consciousness raising groups (women’s mutual support groups) did not transfer well to being political groups, because political groups need to be organised in ways that acknowledge and account for power relationships. Mutual support groups can kind of ignore those, but as soon as they try to go out and do something, systems of oppressive power are replicated, cliquiness and/or bullying arises. Mumsnet has all of those problems at mass scale.

Finally, the biggest problem of all, especially as mumsnet moved into politics: it equates womanhood with motherhood.

Despite or perhaps because of these flaws, it was still a lively discussion platform. It became a major centre for discussion of ‘women’s issues’ and feminism. The political forums of the site started to attract women who did not actually have kids. This creates a structural tension, as we have a definition of womanhood essentially rooted in giving birth, but also a population of invested users who have not and will not do so. Part of the project of the forum therefore includes navigating that tension – the definition of womanhood is inherently under negotiation in the space. Middle class white feminists want in, so they need to redraw the boundary so that a different Other is excluded. This discussion is also taking place where many of the participants are entitled but isolated and vulnerable. Some people in this position are searching for an Other to blame. Men are an obvious target, but not a safe one. The pre-existing tradition of British terfism, already popular with some of the political participants, provided an answer to all of these problems.

In retrospect, it seems inevitable it would turn into a hate site. Indeed, every social site eventually turns into a hate site if it is popular and not moderated. Mumsnet moderators did a calculation of how many haters loved the site, how many people didn’t care about the issue, and how many trans mums they were driving off. The compromise they came up with was to keep the hatred relatively contained in radioactive corners of the site. And this has worked great. It’s still a major site for mums. It has developed terfism from a fringe concern to the UK’s mainstream feminism. Everyone (that matters) is happy.

The Supreme Court

In the time since I originally wrote the above, the Supreme Court of the UK has issued a ruling on gender. The influence of mumsnet has reached the highest court – the official definition of womanhood is now cemented in mumsnet logic.

I want to very strongly assert that this really is mumsnet’s victory. It is not a coincidence that the hatred and arguments hashed out by connected, professional, influential, posh women has changed government policy in very real ways that have real impacts on other women, men and non-binary people.

A good reputation

After writing this, I had dinner with some cis friends who are parents and tried broaching the topic of whether mumsnet might be problematic. For many cis people, the success and affordances of the site vastly outweighs the minor inconvenience of trans people losing their human rights.

Do try talking to your friends, sure, but it may not be enough and this may be something trans people may wish to delegate.

Solving the problem

So, what do we do? When they had their billboard co-advertising campaign “Brand X is endorsed by mumsnet”, I wrote to several of the advertisers I saw, linking them to an NGO’s designation of them as a hate site. (A link I no longer possess and can’t recover because websearch has ceased working. However, Vice does have an article.)

The bigger solution, of course, is to do something about England. The trend of kids in pubs is helping. But better access to childcare, more tolerance of babies in public spaces, more access to babysitting/childcare are all needed.

And while we’re at it: lift the benefit cap, make sure everyone has their basic needs met, recognise that the UN’s human rights includes not only food and shelter and so forth, but also leisure. There need to be free activities welcoming to mixed groups including people with kids and people without.

Women would stop joining mumsnet if they could get their social needs met by their existing networks. The stigmatisation of giving birth needs to end. And, in the mean time, getting new mums on to, say, federated social media like Mastodon, is honestly kind of a hard sell. For cis people who don’t care really about their trans friends’s political wellbeing outside of an abstract oh-dearism, leaving mumsnet doesn’t have the urgency of leaving US big tech. Federated social media does not having a ready made user base for new parents on the same scale. Again, this is a conversation people should try to have.

But, let’s be real, by “people” I mean cis people. Especially parents. Especially mothers. Because that’s who is going to have sway.

Strategies for Trans Organising

Background

When I came to this country, mainstream gay rights organisations were not trans inclusive. Indeed, often the opposite. I attended what was the UK’s largest trans protest at an awards banquet for one of them in which a terf was a nominee.

Things have moved on rather a lot. That protest was tiny compared to ones that have happened since. And virtually all organisations in that sector are now LGBTQ+. Given the sheer numbers of nonbinary young people, this seems like a very obvious step. However, there are a few ominous signs.

LGB(t) Labour had it’s gathering recently and is rumoured to have not invited their trans member. Given the way Labour has been hostile to trans people and especially trans youth, this is not a surprising development, although it is also a shocking development. The influence of the US also does suggest things could change quickly.

Holding the Line

It seems obvious that organisations that are currently LGBTQ+ should remain so. The vast majority of LGB people do support trans rights, so the membership of these organisations ought to be able to use their voices to prevent capitulation to the far right. Indeed, we are stronger together.

Organisations that are backsliding, such as LGBT Labour are theoretically answerable to their members, who can and should speak up.

Expanding our Alliances

LGBTQ+ issues are sometimes called “identity politics”, but this is something of a misnomer. The political issues we have are generally not with regards to how we use our minds, but rather with what we do with our bodies. Prejudice against us is mostly focussed on embodiment – of using our bodies in the wrong way. We should make common cause with others in similar positions.

We can and should reach out in solidarity to sex workers and drug addicts and others acting as if their body belongs only to themselves. We should not let respectability politics prevent us from building bridges with comrades who want to control their own embodiment.

LGB people, trans people, sex workers and drug addicts are groups that already have some membership cross over. Our issues are linked. A health system that fails or punishes drug addicts is also likely to have a paternalistic attitude towards trans people, failing many of us. All of us deserve better. We can show up to each other’s protests and build bridges.

Red Umbrellas vs Red Flags

This is the point where you would expect to find links to organisations. Unfortunately, I lost touch with the addicts group that I had collaborated with in the past, so I hope I get comments here with links. In the mean time, let’s talk about how to recognise comrades.

There are a lot of organisations that work with addicts, but we are looking for something run by and for addicts and that seeks to protect their rights and safety as drug users. They may be working to fight stigma, for decriminalisation, or for safe injection sites and access to clean needles.

Many organisations for drug users are trying to help people get clean. Of course, this is a decision people should be free to make, but this is not what we’re looking for. Anything advertising treatment programmes on their web page is a red flag. Instead we want to find people who are advocating for their rights as addicts, to live happy, safe lives, while remaining addicted if they choose. Those are the comrades we’re looking for. Note that they may also advocate for people in recovery programmes, but demand this be a free choice.

Similarly, we are looking for organisations run by and for sex workers, that are focussed on supporting their rights as workers. Groups like the European Sex Workers Rights Alliance. Many sex worker organisations use the red umbrella symbol (which is also sometimes used by mental health groups). Again, you are looking for organisation that are talking about things like stigma, decriminalisation and rights.

Rescue organisations, people trying to get sex workers into other industries, and “the Nordic Model” are all red flags. Because terfs and swerfs have significant crossover, you’ll find that trans people and sex workers often have the same enemies, which can be a strong basis to build from.

Unlearning our Biases

It’s easy to say we should get rid of respectability politics, but harder to do it. Several years ago, I co-organised a protest with an addict group and all of us were nervous about causing offence. None of us did. It was fine because we were all making an effort. I’m not saying that this will always go fine, but everyone making an effort goes a long way.

With any coalition, we don’t have to agree 100%. We only have to agree on what we’re demonstrating for or against. If we have the same enemies, that can be enough.

But also, it’s worth trying to broaden our perspectives. Seek out the voices of people most impacted by criminalisation and hear what they want. Trans people should have a central voice in trans treatment in the NHS. Addicts should have a central voice in their own treatment and criminalisation. Sex workers should be centred rather than seen as passive damsels waiting for rescue. Be on your best behaviour and remember we all deserve freedom to live our lives authentically.

US-based Trans Content has Moved

Friends, I’m posting about calls for actions for trans US residents and citizens (and our allies) in a new location: https://yozhik.party/. You can follow via RSS or via the fediverse: @trans . The calls to action are all things that can be undertaken by people living outside the US.

UK based domestic or European trans stuff is not moving. By the way, if you have not yet done so, you can design a paper coffin for Trans Kids Deserve Better who have dropped them at Wes Streeting’s office for more than 200 days since the blocker ban was announced. If you do a digital design, a helpful volunteer will print it out and deliver it direct to his office.

If you do a paper design (use the same template and print on A3), DM me or them to arrange somebody to pick it up or where to post it.

Unnecessary Disclaimers

Sharp readers will have noticed that yozhik is Russian for hedgehog. I got the domain originally because I wanted to launch a fan site for Hedgehog in the Fog. Because I love Soviet films and the stuff made for children is especially good. Anyway, it seemed fortuitous because here’s a tradition in England of activist groups using cute animals, so I’ve gone for it. The user name is from Trans Rights Across the Atlantic, and since “traa” is sometimes used disparagingly, I thought it would be amusing to steal it away from transphobes. Or at least make their conversation even more confusing if the group catches on.

Anyway…. yeah, somebody made an issue on github accusing me of being a transphobic Russian agent, which will be funny tomorrow.

Honestly, this is not the kind of shit I expect from github. This is so much more LinkedIn.

The moral panic of ‘Adolescence’

They are not just gangs of kids anymore. They are often the kinds of kids that are called superpredators — no conscience, no empathy. We can talk about why they ended up that way, but first, we have to bring them to heel.

Hilary Clinton in 1996, about people roughly my age.

If Adolescence had been made a few years previously, it would have been against a backdrop of fear of video gaming. Or before that, rap music. Or before that, Dungeons and Dragons. Whatever it is that makes kids today more alarming and violent than kids of previous years. As they always are.

US trends in violent crimes. source https://ojjdp.ojp.gov/publications/trends-in-youth-arrests.pdf The UK doesn’t make such nice graphs so easy to find.

When I was 13, in 1989, many, if not most, 13 year old boys felt hatred and entitlement towards the bodies of their classmates that they perceived to be women. They were horrible little thugs.

They grew out of it.

Mostly.

So are we to believe that the 1980s was a more enlightened time for feminism for young teens? Or the 1970s, then? The 1990s? In exactly what year of pre-internet were boys respectful and well-behaved towards girls while seeing them as intellectual equals? One of the creators of Adolescence is trying to get phones taken away from kids, so there must be a year in which boys respected girls for their intellect, did not ever see them as meat, and in which students had equal opportunity across all genders. A year that we can return to, if only kids didn’t have phones!

Or not.

I do not mean to suggest that everything happening online is fine – far from it. But the same mobile phone and social media account that allows boys to access objectionable YouTube videos allows trans teens to find the community and support they need to keep going. So what can we change to prevent radicalisation into hatred without harming vulnerable youth?

Regulatory changes that might actually help

Automated, algorithmic news feeds take whatever demographic data they have and serve back what, statistically, the user will most likely interact with. Australian researchers found that for entirely blank profiles of “young men” – new email addresses of fictitious people – what those algorithms served back was intense misogyny. This is actually a problem. Keeping kids away from this until they turn 16, even if it were possible, would not meaningfully solve this problem.

A 17 year old boy being bombarded with sexism will still be impacted by it and, by extension, so will the girls and women around him. The solution is not to hide away intensely damaging content recommendation systems until people reach a threshold age, but to change legal regulation into how feeds are constructed and presented to people. Showing people things they’ve subscribed to in chronological order is fine. Showing them things we surmise they may like, based on algorithmic predictions. cannot be left out of human control.

It turns out that pandering to our basest instincts is not good for us. Computers cannot be held responsible, so nothing should happen with them without some human review. Not just for children, as everyone is vulnerable to radicalisation.

Indeed, YouTube’s radicalisation engine guides users towards more and more extreme versions of their interests. Someone who watches a video about jogging will be gradually lead down a path to ultramarathons. Running is innocuous enough, but the implications here with political content, sexism and health and wellness is highly concerning. My father might still be alive if he hadn’t started getting “health” information from YouTube. Again, children are only one category of vulnerable users. Information outlets, like libraries, used to curate their information.

I’m not suggesting that YouTube employ humans to look at every uploaded video, but their recommendation engine must be under human control. If it’s not vetted, it shouldn’t be pushed at us. Videos advocating for sexism could be made to be against the terms of service. They could be excluded from platform-provided recommendations. Google should have humans in the loop, to tie their brand identity to their curated lists. If they want to be the brand of sexism, they can be, but they need to have a human sign off on that and the rest of us can decide if we want our free time and our own videos associated with that.

What’s wrong with banning kids from social media?

Let’s start by talking about the impact on adult users of social media.

Right now, I can open a web browser and go sign up for a social media account with minimal fuss on a gigantic corporate network, or a tiny independent website. Usually, I have to give an email address, but I usually don’t need to supply a real name, a phone number or any other meaningfully traceable information.

This is valuable to me, because I may want to discuss a health problem anonymously, an identity I’m exploring, or anything else I’d rather that advertisers or bad actors not trace back to my actual home address.

If I wish to post to some of the amateur porn sites, however, I have to send them a picture of my face next to my passport so they can verify my identity. This has to be kept on file. This means that if upload a video that is not otherwise identifiable as me because of cropping or whatever, it’s still forever tied to my government ID. If the site gets hacked, all of my images could suddenly be very tied to my actual home address. These rules in most countries are only applied to adult content. It’s for age verification.

This is how age verification works in practice. If I wanted to make intimate videos, the de-anonymisation of age verification would be very likely to dissuade me. If this became required for all social media use, I would be also dissuaded if I was seeking help for an embarrassing or private medical condition. Or if I was exploring my gender identity, or trying to write heartfelt poetry about a girl who got away, or any number of things a person ought to be able to do with others without it being tied to their government ID.

Humans sometimes need to be able to access community anonymously. Because they’re dealing with addiction. Or they are questioning their gender or sexuality, and would be unsafe if some people in their lives learn of this; people seeking help trying to leave an abusive spouse or family member; anybody who wants or needs privacy. This isn’t all queers and people cheating on their wives – it’s also people who are in danger and are trying to get to safety. These are people we should support in a free country.

Meanwhile, kids under 16 are also sometimes trying to find out how to escape abuse; question their gender or sexuality; or just want and need some level of agency and privacy. There are things we should protect them from, but finding community and safety with others should not be on that list.

Good entertainment makes bad law

A lot of people like the massively overwrought series and I’m glad they found something they think is nice to watch. However, just because somebody is inspired by kitchen sink dramas does not mean that we should all lose significant freedom as a result. Especially the kids.

Bullying wasn’t invented with the internet. In 1988, “slam books” were made out of spiral notebooks, polaroids, glue and hatred. (I wasn’t popular enough to be allowed to look at them.) Unpleasant rumours, unkind judgements and even inappropriate photos weren’t invented yesterday.

What was invented yesterday were safe communication networks for agender furries.

Don’t take that away from them.

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Nobody on the Right Actually Cares about Women Athletes

The Trump administration has moved to deny visas to trans athletes ahead of the 2028 Olympic Games. The US State Department does not have the right to dictate policy to international sports organisations. But what’s more, the way the memo is written does not limit the ban to athletes.

Most of the MAGA movement is openly hostile to women. They ended the right to abortion in the US. They are actively working to make it harder for women to vote. It defies reason that people who want to entirely shut women out of public life actually see any value in women’s sports. They don’t care about women athletes. But they do care about hurting trans people.

This rule change has serious implications for trans people’s freedom of movement. It labels trans people’s documentation as fraudulent, which also has serious implications for any interaction a trans person may have with the federal government. The purported target is foreign athletes, but the victims will overwhelmingly be trans Americans. The Trump administrations is using the Olympics as an excuse and a first step to seriously impacting the ability of trans people to exist.

The International Olympic Committee has yet to comment on this development. The latest thing on their website is an announcement of a sponsorship deal. This is certainly not what the sponsors signed up for. But Anheiser-Busch InBev, as the world’s largest brewer, has acquired this problem. They also have influence. I am therefore asking you to write to them. The form below gives suggested text. When you hit the “send” button, it will put the message into your email program. I will not collect or have access to your addresses.

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But surely the face-eating leopards won’t eat my face!

Many people who have invested a lot of time and energy into corporate platforms don’t want to walk away from that, which is entirely understandable. And anyway, they muse, how bad could it possibly be?

Let’s look at some risks:

Radicalisation – but that’s fine because I’m immune to propaganda.

Um, maybe? Some people are more susceptible than others. However, people are on the platforms they’re on because of the “network effect”. You’re there because your contacts are there and your contacts are there because you are. Some of them are susceptible and by staying in propaganda-filled environments, you’re helping expose them.

You’re also exposing yourself and your contacts to greater risk of hate speech. Zuckerberg went to the inauguration, stood next to a guy who gave Hitler salutes, and is also doing his part for Trump by allowing greater hate speech. Sticks and stones may not break your bones or hurt your feelings, but it’s highly damaging to some people. And also changes the political discourse and will impact our rights. Again, you and your friends are holding each other hostage via the network effect.

Multiple studies have shown that boys are being groomed into extreme misogyny via algorithms on video-based social media. Again, the corporate platforms are a problem.

Whether or not you’re personally immune (you’re not, sorry), society as a whole certainly isn’t.

Non-state physical threat – I’ll be fine

In the US, it’s extremely clear that radicalised actors face a physical threat to minoritised groups. My own opinion is that migrants (and the children of migrants) who actually are in quite a lot of danger. Facebook has previously been a major platform for planning and coordination for at least one genocide.

Women and LGBT people are also at high risk of doxing, via Meta. “The Facebook platform makes doxing particularly easy and rewarding for doxers.” Facebook has also leaked personal information to people pretending to be police, as no warrant is required in emergency situations.

Maybe you’ll be fine, but some groups are in serious danger.

State-based threat – I’ll be fine!!

Americans generally don’t really have very many data rights. Europeans have many more, but Meta routinely ignores them (getting fines that would be massive for a less-profitable company). The problem is not just that they mishandled data, but they’ve been accused of collecting excessive data they had no right to and which users hadn’t and couldn’t consent to.

That data includes information like gender, race, sexuality, orientation, trans status, susceptibility to addiction – it’s far ranging. Indeed, Meta collects and utilises data about users likely race and other protected characteristics. Some of this data, say, identifying Hispanic Spanish-speakers, may be useful for Trump’s campaign promise of putting people into camps.

And, if a court orders Meta to share any of their collected data with the cops, they have to comply. Which is how they came to participate in helping prosecute abortion care.

If they stored less data, or kept messages encrypted, they would not have had access to this data to share. But instead, they also track as much information as possible from their own apps and from other, unrelated apps listed in your phone’s app store.

I searched my phone’s app store for “period tracker” and the top result leaks data to facebook. Apps with Facebook trackers collect “off meta activity” to use to show you adverts. Or to share with anyone who has a court order demanding they do so.

They also track your relationships on and offline, via apps, partly by tracking location.

WhatsApp’s message content are encrypted and thus not visible to the company, but they know who you message, how often, at what times, where you are when you send them. This is called metadata and in some ways it’s more valuable than the message contents. Not for prosecuting abortions as above, but for inferring relationships and life circumstances.

The sheer amount of surveillance available to state actors is dizzying. But you’ll be fine, right?

Oh wow, no, we need regulation, especially to protect kids!

It’s absolutely true that individual action is not going to put a stop to this, and larger, collectivised action is necessary. The GDPR in the EU is a great step, even if it took them a very long time to act and fines were small relative to Meta’s income.

The situations in the US and the UK, however, are a long way off from the EU. The UK is too small and isolated to act with any real teeth and the US is currently pro-abuse.

You may be thinking of some proposed legislation purported to benefit the online safety of kids. But those proposed laws were written by the companies they’re meant to legislate. They’re written in such a way that no social media site could possibly comply with them unless they have the resources of Meta. The version proposed in the UK would have outlawed Wikipedia. They’re meant to extend monopolies, not to protect kids.

Indeed, the language they use for marketing these ideas is the same language used by the governor of Florida while enacting rules against trans youth. “Letting kids be kids” means keeping them away from knowledge about trans lives, gay lives, protection against STIs, or any kind of sex or gender education. Enshrouding children with enforced innocence is compulsory cisgender heterosexuality. It is “anti woke” ignorance in which discrimination is tolerated by its antidotes are not.

The version of this just passed in Australia requires age verification for the entire country for many normal activities. This hampers anonymity, puts people subject to abuse at greater risk, and deprives kids of vital information.

We must stay and fight!

Karl Marx thought that the revolution would come when the workers seized the tools of production. Even now, people are clinging to Twitter – a site owned and controlled by somebody who Seig Heils – vowing to hold their ground.

But this isn’t like holding on to a piece of land against an advancing army. The oligarchs not only own the land, they own the physics. It’s like fighting G-d. They control who, if anyone, sees your posts and everything that you see. That is not at all like real life or even like ancient myth. G-d sometimes plunged people into darkness or plagued them with flies or even opened chasms beneath them, but everyone present was in the same reality, seeing the same things. That’s not true on a virtual platform.

Fox News used to run a show called Hannity and Colmes. Hannity was a tough, jockular bloke who was right wing. Colmes was a tame, soft-spoken liberal. They faced off each other to debate, except they didn’t. The terms, the framing, the guests, and everything about the show was meant to give right wing audiences an illusion of debate, but it was never a fair match. Even the settings of the microphones was such that the right wing voices were objectively louder than the liberals. If Colmes had been actually effective at countering right wing narratives and framing, he would have been fired.

Nobody is actually “staying and fighting” on Twitter. They’re just the loyal opposition. They’re a figleaf of balance where none exists. They’re being used and exploited and unlike Colmes, aren’t even getting anything in return. He got paid. Liberals on twitter are giving resources and cover to Musk.

Some of the corporate platforms may “feel” more balanced, but their owners are loyal to Trump and are quickly lining up. In the West, the workers did not ever end up seizing the factories they worked in. The means of production stayed in the hands of capital. But at least Marxists had a credible plan for how victory might have come about. There is no credible path wherein Facebook users seize Meta. There’s just not.

You Get a better world by building it.

Leftists talk about the “power of the people”. The people are building alternative platforms which are not under oligarch control and are structurally resistant to capture. That’s the way forward. Join a movement that will immediately (although individually) solve several of the problems listed above and which provides a route for the future.

A better world is possible and is much less far away than it seems.

But it does mean stopping giving all your data to Meta, Google, Apple, Amazon, and X.

Join the movement. Go to fedi.

Mastodon Instances

What if I pick the wrong one??

Well, you might have a bad experience and wander away forever, which would be sad, but not the inevitable result. If it’s easy to move between instances. If I decide that queer.party is too unserious, I can just move to scholar.social. It’s only a few clicks and my contacts would all move with me, so I wouldn’t miss your posts and you wouldn’t miss mine.

Of course, this is computers and real life, so there will be a few hiccups, but I’ve moved a couple of times and it really is very easy.

Hey, you forgot – !

If you amazing instance has open signups, please do leave a comment.

But what about Bluesky?

This platform – invented by the guy who started Twitter, then refused to moderate it properly and eventually forced the sale to Musk after Musk wanted to back out- sorry, where was I?

Bluesky has a single point of failure. They could decide to sell it to Musk too. Or to Meta. Or to Google. Or to Amazon, or to whoever. It’s backed by capital, so it’s for sale.

To prevent this, there’s a group of people trying to build a “spare” server so Bluesky users can easily hop between them when the main Bluesky stops being in the fun early phases of trying to build up a user base and moves on phase 2 where it tryies to wring data and profit out of everyone. The people making the spare estimate that their server will cost $30 million USD and take three years to set up. That’s apparently not counting running costs after those three years are up. Which may be a moot point, as currently, this is also not technically possible. It requires the capital-backed team at Bluesky to build the tools to make this possible.

And if the hypothetical $30 million dollar spare server also gets caught up in US politics, what then? Do they need to raise another $30 million?

By contrast, a small mastodon (or other fediverse) server can go up in an afternoon and be run for a few dollars a month. Nobody quite knows how many are running right now- it’s in the thousands. Some only have one user. Some have hundreds.

The social media project with thousands of people working independently as part of a loose movement is harder to capture than a centralised, expensive project. It’s not just run by one or two teams. It’s not in one or two countries.

I know your friends are on Bluesky. . . . Like they are on facebook and were on twitter and were on myspace. . ..

Part of the reason people like the fediverse is that it’s really very easy to move between instances. If queer.party turns out too be too unserious, I can go to scholar.social and keep my contacts. I would argue that this is better than herding ourselves into yet another walled garden that cages us. To another billionaire who turns fascist.

You can be on many websites at a time and you don’t have to choose – it’s possible to have both kinds of account. I’m just kind of tired of being caught in traps again and again and again.

Get Away from Meta and X Now

We’ve all seen the pictures from Trump’s inauguration – Elon Musk, CEO of Twitter and Mark Zuckerberg, CEO of Facebook, WhatsApp and Instagram; stood in the front row. And of Musk giving a Nazi salute. The CEO of TikTok was not in those pictures, but he was also there. The collaboration has already started. Facebook has already helped arrest and prosecute people for abortion.

Ditch WhatsApp

Get Signal instead. I’m on there. Find me via my phone number or send me an email.

Ditch Insta

The hot new platform is PixelFed. You pick an “instance” to join and then can follow any other PixelFed user on any instance. I’m trying out Pix.lgbt, which is run by a trans woman.

Pixelfed is part of the fediverse. (keep reading for more)

Ditch Twitter (or Threads)

As in, actually delete your X account. Don’t just stop using it. You need to deactivate the account, wait 30 days and then demand that the data actually be deleted.

The popular replacement for twitter is Mastodon. But don’t just pick an instance at random, because they all have different moderation policies. For queers and allies, a good one is https://lgbt.io. If you’re a musician, you might enjoy https://sonomu.club/. If you’re Jewish (and get on well with liberal zionists), https://babka.social/. If you’re not sure, just do lgbt.io. It’s extremely easy to move your account between servers, so if you decide later that you should have been on a different server, you can move. However, your early experiences are going to make you feel happy or not, so do get a recommendation for an instance. The flagship one has moderation problems and puts many people off.

Mastodon is part of the fediverse. (keep reading for more)

Ditch Facebook

You could just join Mastodon, but for people who like nicely threaded replies and discussions where you can see who has replied to what, people like Misskey (or the million sub-variants of Misskey). I’m trying out https://blahaj.zone/ which is very queer friendly.

Misskey is part of the fediverse. (keep reading for more)

The fedi-what?

Mastodon, Pixelfed, Misskey and several other platforms all interoperate. If you join any Matsodon instance, you can follow anyone on any of them, on any instance. The differences between them are the interface, the moderation, and the community that is local to each instance. (Pixelfed, reasonably, only shows posts that contain pictures, so isn’t a good way to follow Mastodon users.)

In practice, this means that wherever you join, you can follow me: @celesteh@lgbt.io. (You can also follow this blog: @celesteh )

This is important because it means that this network cannot just be purchased by Elon Musk, even if he buys this blog, he can’t buy every single Mastodon server. This network can never be fully captured by oligarchs.

Getting started

I just wrote a thing about how to sign up at another blog yesterday, so go read that.

Once you’re signed up, upload a profile image, fill out your bio and write a little post.

Then follow me. Send me a message if we know each other online or in real life.

Tell your friends where you’ve gone. And why. If you want to post this message to X or any Meta property, you’re going to need to be cryptic, because they will not let you link to their competitors in a post.

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